Thursday, January 13, 2011
Is age really just a number?
As the late R&B singer, Aaliyah, once said, "age ain't nothing but a number." Do you agree or disagree with this quote in relation to Patria marrying Pedrito at the young age of seventeen in IBF? Patria is the same age of a junior in high school (YOU). If you found true love, would you marry someone at the age of seventeen? Why or why not? What are 3-4 important factors that you would heavily consider before making this choice? If you even talked about getting married now,what would be the reaction of your family, friends, etc and why?
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As the late R&B singer, Aaliyah, once said, "Age ain't nothing but a number." I disagree with this quote in relation to Patria marrying Pedrito at the young age of seventeen in IBF. If I found true love, I would never get marry at the age of seventeen and especially the age I am now which is 15. First of all, when you are 15, the average teenager doesn’t know what true love is. During the teen years, teenagers are still trying to figure out true love and the dating world. I really don’t believe that a seventeen year old found true love. When you are in high school, you explore the dating world and by the time you are an adult you are able to find your true love because you have experience when you were in high school.
ReplyDeleteThere are many factors that I will heavily consider before making this choice. However the 3 most main factors I will consider are his family & our family being one family, our parent’s decision and thoughts about the marriage, and our future which include college life, our future children, living in the same house, jobs/career, etc. First, our family coming together is one of the main factors because what if our families don’t get along and both of the family view about marriage at this time. Secondly, our parents decision is another main factor because the average parent will not let there kids marry another person because you’re still young and also you’re still maturing and they don’t want you to grow up too quickly. The last is our future because you’re basically cutting your life short if you’re getting married when you’re a teenager. You still have to go to college and get your job and career later on in life after college.
If I even talk about marriage now, my reaction from my family and friends would think I was crazy. They will both say “You’re still young and you have your whole life ahead of you for marriage”. “Is this boy really worth being married to especially the way the generation and society is today?” They will say this to me because mostly the way my generation and society is today because most teens are doing drugs, having sex, having children, etc and also I am young to get married and I got my whole life ahead of me.
Aaliyah was my first childhood idol I looked up to her geatly. I agree that age is nothing but a number in most cases. In the case of Patria and Pedrito getting married at age 17 I see nothing wrong with it. Its like that conversation we had about teenage love and whether or not you are to young to know what love is, but I believe Love is when you’ve took the time to get to know someone and you feel a deep connection with them . Love is when u feel like there no doubt in your mind about being with them. And u feel you can spend your life with them! Despite the hard times! Notice I said FEEL not think! you have to feel with your heart! I am currently at the age of 17 and feel that iam in love and wouldn’t mind marying young because I am commited to my relationship and have been for almost 5 years now. Since the age of 12 I have been with my boyfriend through many problems. The things id put into thought is how we handle situations ,was he there when I needed him, does he feel the same way, and is he ready to take the same steps I am. My family on the other hand would say I am crazy and don’t know what I want and that I am to young to understand what I am doing but I feel ready I would do it.
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ReplyDeleteAs the late R&B singer Aaliyah once said, “Age ain’t nothing but a number”. No I do not agree with this quote, I do not think teenagers should get marry at the age of seventeen or younger because teenagers do not really know what the meaning of true love is, they just throw around the word when they do not realize that the word has deep affects on peoples feelings. True love is when you put all your trust in a boy or girl that you are dating and that you would not want to wake up another day without that person in your life. If I found true love I would not get marry because my mind is still trying to process the meaning of true love and that I would not have the right tools to support my wife at the age of 15/16. Even if I had these things right now I still would not get marry.
Before I get into a marriage with a girl I would have to consider three things, 1: We (Me and my wife) would have to have a college degree and job that would help us support each other, 2: My family and her family has to get along with each other and they have to do it because they really like them not because they want us happy. 3: If me and my wife gets into a situation that we can not get on the same page we would try until we agree with each other and make one decision. If I talked about getting married right now I think my parents would freak out and tell me that I am not ready for this and that I can be ruining my life because they would not think this girl is right for me or that the girl is probably making me commit to her and she is going to help me out if I ever need it. So I do not think that teenagers at the age of seventeen or younger should get married and ruin their life if they are not prepare and if they are then go ahead but for me I would not get married at the age I am because I just do not feel I am ready for the commitment.
As Aaliyah said “age ain’t nothing but a number.” I think if two people are in love with each other they have the right to be married. Whether they are old, young, skinny, fat, white, or fat if they feel that marriage would make their life and make them better then they have the right to make that decision. Patria marring Pedrito was no mistake because every thing happens for a reason. If these two didn’t love each other they would have not got married its just common sense. Truthfully if I was in love I could get married at 17 but I would probably run in to problems with family and friends. They would probably I’m mistaken, or its puppy love, or I don’t know what love is. They would probably say this to keep me from getting hurt but life is based on learning as you go. In the future you can look back and say why didn’t I take the chance? Why did I let it slip away? So you might find a life time partner then and there. Every one knows love but every one doesn’t love the same. So no one can tell how, who, when, what, or where to love. The only person who can make that decision is you. If no one believes in your love weather it is your family or friend and you agree with them that only mean that there was no real love between you and boy/girl friend in the first place. People most times are being judge or defined by their age but you have to look beyond that, age is just how long we are on this earth and it stops after you die but the love you have for some if they are older or younger can last forever and a lifetime.
ReplyDeleteAs the late R&B singer, Aaliyah, once said, "Age ain't nothing but a number." Me as a child who is close to the age I don't agree because age is a number but then again certain ages their should be a line drawn were us as children should say well your not in my age limit so their for we can't be friends or even more then that.I Would never rush to get married because I Have my whole life ahead of me and when you rush into things life hands you a lot of surprises.I feel as though if you rush into a marriage at a young age you won't know what else was out their for you or different opportunities you have if you rush into something that serious.If i were to get married at 17 My friends ,family ,etc wouldn't approve only because they would feel like I'm throwing my life away. They would also say that I'm way to young to commit to something like that and i have many different opportunities ahead of me. Most people feel a different kinda way about things like that only because of their heritage or because they have no other options.
ReplyDeleteIn my opinion i do feel like age is just a number.. The reason why is because age doesnt determine someones feelings or emotions.
ReplyDeleteIf i was only 17 and felt that i had found that one person I couldnt live without then yes I would marry them .. Although to many it would seem like im to young But they have no idea how i may feel on the inside. Also they can not determine my happiness. Some important factors i wold consider when making this decision would be 1.Is this person treating me the way i would like to be treated by a life partner ? 2. Am I truely To young for such a commitment ? 3. Am i truely happy? Based on the answers i give myself to these questions would determine whether or not I would be marrying that person.
At my age now i believe that if i began to speak of marriage alot of my friends would take me for a joke. Possibly begin to say that im to young for such a thing.
As far as my Family is concerned they would also believe that im to young to be begining to think of such a serious commitment to one person. They more then likely wouldnt take me seriously either, or try to persuade me to not get married so young.
In this day and age its not as traditional as the culture once was. Alot of things are restricted because of age.In the past girls were getting married from as young as 14. But in todays society many feel that teens are not ready emotionally, or mentally for such commintment, not acknowledging that every indivual is different.
i believe that age doesnt really play a big part I feel that its all based on someones maturity level, and their emotions.
Despite the fact that I do think age is just a number, in the case of marriage, age is a significant matter. I believe that when it comes to life changing decisions like marriage, age is very important to consider. In relation to Patria’s marriage to Pedrito at age seventeen, I do not agree with this quote. At the tender age of 17, one does not realize the choice they are making and what comes with the responsibility of marriage. Teens are still young, and still searching for what it is that they think will give them a purpose in life. Getting married at a young age would only create problems. Many people of my generation don’t actually know what true love is. When their attraction to someone is strong enough, they just assume its love. Getting married, and raising a family between the ages of 14 and 17 is not ideal for most teens. However there are some teens are willing to go to the extreme for the one they “love”.
ReplyDeleteIf I found rue love at the age of 17, I would not get married. Especially in this day and age. Nowadays, teens who marry one another at young ages are looked down upon by their parents, grandparents, and generations of people older than them. The principles of marriage are difficult to understand at such a young age, and it takes a lot more than a “big white wedding” to have a successful marriage. Marriage is a huge commitment, and at 17, I would definitely not be ready to accept that. I’d have way too much ahead of me to even be considering marriage. My family would not approve, and I'm pretty sure the family of my significant other would not either.
Age is not the only factor to be considered upon marriage. Occupation, family history, and education are things that I would consider when it comes to marriage. If I should suggest marriage now, my parents would probably look at me like I was crazy. Having not been married until their early thirties, my parents do not believe in teen marriage. My grandmother raised my mother to value herself first before anyone else, and my mother has taught me the same.
As the late R&B singer Aaliyah once said, “Age ain’t nothing but a number”. No I do agree with this quote, I do not think teenagers should get marry at the age of seventeen or younger because teenagers do not really know what the meaning of true love is. Teenagers are more concentrated on dating them, then making a full commitment to one person.
ReplyDeleteTo me Patria and Pedrito getting married at a young age (17) I do not think it is something bad, but they could have waiting a little longer. the reason I think it is nothing wrong with that is because if they believe they are actually in love and want to take it a further then they should do so. My definition on love is when u feel there is no one that can come between your partner and you. I would say now that I would not get married at (15), even though I do think I am in love with the person I am in a relationship with. But I believe that I should have all my degrees, diplomas, and other important educational things before I settle down and get married. The youngest I would get married would be 24 so I know I would be in the right path.
Important factors that I would heavily consider before making this choice is; 1) am I confident that he loves me as much as I love him, or more. 2) am I making the right decision?. 3) do I have my career/life planned out. If I was to talk about getting married now, my mother would think it is cute that I am talking about marriage, but would not allow it. My father would think I was crazy , and would probably say it is just teenage love wait longer… much, much longer. My grandmother would probably think the world is coming to a end, because she still consider us babies. My friends would approve of it because I have been dating my boyfriend for years, but at the end of the day I would not marry him at this age nor 17 regardless.
Aaliyah once said “age ain't nothing but a number”. I agree with this quote because there should not be an age restriction towards some things in life. Age doe not determine whether an individual is ready to do anything nor can Handel a certain task given to them. What determines if an individual is truly ready to do anything is maturity. It is only common for people who are older to be given more tasks and responsibilities because they have developed maturity over the years. People tend to give adults more difficult tasks or tasks which require maturity because it is common to find a mature adult rather than a mature teenager or child. Although it is common to find maturity only in adults, there are some cases where teenagers possess maturity at a young age as well. Maturity does not only come from experience, but learning from other people’s experience.
ReplyDeleteIf I found true love, I would marry at the age of seventeen. I feel that marriage is not only for adults but for mature teens who feel they are ready to commit themselves to one person. Honestly, I would only marry someone if I have known the person for over seven or eight years so if I was to get married when I was a teenager, I would have to know the man that I am marrying from my childhood. PATRIA HAS EVERY RIGHT TO MARRY.
No matter what age you are you have to consider major factors before getting married. One factor is: Can you and the person get along well with each other. This does not mean that the relationship is going to be perfect or there will be no arguments but, there is always a time when the two mates can come to an agreement when ever there is a dispute. Another factor is: The person really loves their mate. A person should not marry if they are not in love. To get married you have to truly care about the person. One last and important factor is: You can not live with out the person who you want to get married with. You are committing yourself to one person and by doing that you are basically declaring you love and can not live with out the person you are marrying. It is like a holy joining of two people which is why some people look at marriage as sacred.
Aailyah’s quote is true to a certain extent but differs based on who it is applied to because some individuals are mature for their age. I do not agree with Partia’s decision to marry Pedrito at such a young age because she limited her options in life so vastly and has not seen enough and met enough people in her life to be married to someone so young. Seventeen is such a young and tender age to be forcing yourself into a strict and committed relationship that can only be ended with a divorce. By the time you are seventeen it is also highly unlikely that you would have found true love because the only love you have ever had is the relationships with your family and closest friends not relations with people of the opposite sex. I would not consider marriage at the age of seventeen because this time in my life is going to be for fun and adventure and I will not be able to do the things I would like because I would already have a husband that many not approve of something’s I may be doing. When you have a significant other you can no longer do things you may usually do because you are now connected to someone and you have to consider how your actions will affect them as well. Before getting married to someone I would have had to be in a long term committed relationship with them where they have made few mistakes so I could know that they can be fully committed to me for the rest of their life. Also they should be at least somewhat successful so I know they are ambitious and will be able to provide for their family. He does not have to be a millionaire but he also should not be making minimum wage or not have a career at all. Lastly he should have a personality that I can see myself connecting to and with stand for the rest of my life. The people closest to me would not allow me to make the decision to get married at such a young age because they would think I am only in puppy love. They wouldn’t want me to marry someone who can easily be replaced by the next young man that comes along. My family and friends would not think I am ready for such a steady commitment like marriage.
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ReplyDeleteAs Aaliyah once said, “age ain’t nothing but a number”. I disagree with this quote because age represents everything today. Everything you buy needs requires a certain age, and people usually treat you your age. If I ever found true love at the age of seventeen I would never get married at the age since I still have to focus on school. I would wait till I graduate high school or college so I can devote most of my time to my family. The reason why I don’t want to get married at age 17 is that my parents would probably kick me out the house since they probably wouldn’t want me married so soon. And I don’t want to have that obligation of taking care of a family so soon at a young age. I want to be able to live life freely before I make any important decisions. If I ever even spoke about getting married at the age of seventeen my family would probably freak at the very idea. My mom would probably just transfer me to another school or scream at me for saying that. My friends would probably think I’m crazy for thinking of that or even be realistic with me if I even tried to get married. The only person I know who would be fine with me getting married would be my grandmother. She keeps asking me to hurry so she can have great grandchildren before she dies and always complaining about it. She occasionally asks me if I have a girlfriend yet so she can ask when do I get my grandchildren. In Patria’s country and time period, it was probably okay to marry at the age of 17 since it wasn’t really a big deal. Things are complete different tho in the 21st century and a lot of rules have changed. It would be crazy to be married in your late teenage year since it probably wasn’t the right decision due to school. If I ever found true love, I would probably tell her to wait to be married, because we might just screw up our whole lives.
R&B Singer Aaliyah once said “age ain’t nothing but a number.” I believe that this quote can be both true and false depending on the situation and the people involved. However based on Patria marrying Pedrito at a young age of seventeen, I don’t really agree with them getting married because to me they are too young. Though I’m living in a different time period so the way I think could possibly be different if I was raised at about the same time as Patria and Pedro. I honestly believe that depending on what is accepted in society or accepted by most people will also have a big part in if you accept it or not. A lot of time we make our decisions based on that other people believe or think. So, I don’t believe that Patria and Pedro should have gotten married just because they were so young. True, no one ever can truly know how you feel but you, however I also do not that feelings can be temporary and just because you feel a certain way now doesn’t mean that you will feel the same in a in a year or a month, possible even a week. Feelings can fade out. That’s why I believe that when you are older you have more experience in relationships, which sometimes might not always be right. I do believe that it is possible for you to find “the one” at a young age but if they are truly “the one” then getting married can wait. If I found true love I wouldn’t get married at the age of seventeen because that’s too young to get married. One important thing that I would consider is can I see myself with this person forever? The second important question I would ask myself is do I completely trust this person and last but not least does this person have any bad qualities that I couldn’t deal with after a while? If I even spoke about getting married now my family and friends would not take me seriously and I know my mom would definitely not accept it.
ReplyDeleteThe late R&B singer, Aaliyah once said, “Age aint nothing but a number.” I disagree with this quote, which is used in everyday life. In the book In The Time Of The Butterflies, Patria and Pedrito got married at the age of 17. The age 17 teen is too young to make decisions like that. Seventeen is means you’re still a teenager and not ready to make such huge decisions in your life like that. When you’re a young adult life is not as it always seems, your not mature enough to handle. Countless number of teenagers makes big decisions and regrets it in the long run.
ReplyDeleteWhen a teenager make such a huge decision it’s sometimes too late to turn back because of the situation their in. When you’re young you don’t know what you’re getting your self into until you get into it. That’s why I don’t believe that age aint nothing but a number. Young adults have not matured enough to make right or wrong choices.
If I found true love right now I would wait until I became older. I would wait because when a person gets older they learn and realize new things about life. Most of the times when you think your in love at a young age, you don’t really understand what love is. If I was to tell my parents that I wanted to marry a girl at the age of seventeen, they would probably think am going crazy. My parents know that I would be making a huge mistake to be making such a huge decision at such a young age.At the end of the day age is a number. When at a young age and you make decisions you can end up into sticky situations that you wished that you could of made when you got older.
I agree in a way because we have no control of how we feel, but then in some ways there still needs to be a limit. I say if you're 12 11 13 or whatever it's different to be going out with someone way older. 1 you're still a baby and 2 for the older person male or female it's ashame for what you're doing because you should know better. What do you want with a bay that you cant get with older females or males around you're age? I persanaly think it's okay depending on you're age. as an example, i have a boyfriend, and hes 22 but at the same time i'm limited and careful too, but with my boyfriends if im with someone older I make sure it's not back tracking me and they has something going for them. I make sure I can still do me and balance everything on my plate. He's a big influence in my life. He's been through everything and he's helping me stay in school and stay focused on the things I need. IT all depends on everything. Basically there's limits to everything and the situation you're in.
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