REGRETS
Killing Ikemefuna hurts Okonkwo so much that he "did not taste any food for two days" (p 63). What mistake in your life do you regret more than anything else? Why did you do what you did, and how did it affect you? Keep in mind that you are posting to a public blog!
A mistake or regret i have in my life was getting into so many altercations last year.what it did to me was have me safety transfered out of my old school into this school, but i felt i did what i did in order to protect myself and my close friends. last school year in april i was jumped after he said she said occured. i told my friend to mind the friends she keeps and that turned into something totally different which caused several girls to jump me in a staircase in school. Then at the end of the school year the sam girls that jumped me jumped my friend so i felt i had to help her beacuse she helped me. Then that lead to several more girls wanting to attack me after ther fact. so the following week a group of 15 girls decided to approach me and say they wanted to fight me but i knew it wouldnt be fair they were planning to jump me. my teacher told my dean and my dean made me tell my mother so i had to admit it to my mother and she decided to transfer me out of the school. i regret it because i left a big school in the city to end up in a small school only 10 short blocks from my house. no more traveling and exploring. also i am missing out on playing sports with my team and cheerleading with my girls. so much i had to give up because i decided i wanted to help some friends out. Never again!
ReplyDeleteI have made many regrets in my life. One of them is following my older brother and get into fights with him. We always fight and chase each other around the house because one person is always bothering the other. My brother is taller, older, and stronger then me however, that never stop me. If my brother hit me, I always get hurt and I start to cry and then I become very mad. We also get in trouble because we break value items my mom keeps such as a candy glass container or a flower pot. As our punishment, my mom will yell at us or make us do chores we do not want to do.
ReplyDeleteAnother regret I have is playing my brother video's games without his permission when I was younger. I will play rated M games especially Grand Theft Auto San Andreas. My parents didn't know at the time, but I use to love playing this game with my brother because he taught me how to play it and at this time I was young, so I was curious about this game. This game have violence and bad language. My parents heard the bad language that was use in the video game, so they don't want me using that language when I was young and being exposed to that. They thought my brother wasn't being a good role model for me.
The biggest thing I regret in my life is being in the he said/ she said gossip in my middle school. I want to be involved in that and my mouth got me too far and this girl wanted to fight me. I didn't want to fight so, she chase me almost to my home and punch me in the face. When I got home, my brother saw me crying. It was raining that day and that's how I felt, sad. I called my mom and told her what happen. She end up getting a suspension however, my "friends" said I got what I earn.
I did these things to pretend to be something I'm not or something I'm not into just to feel accepted in life. I wanted life to be easier for me, however, it made my life worst. It affect me dramatically and still affect me to this day. However, now that I am older, more mature, and have better knowledge about life, I have changed when I attend high school. I have learn to focus on my school work and not be involved with drama or he said/ she said gossip. I have also learn to hang out with friends that have a positive impact on life. I accept myself and the person that I am and going to be.
One of the biggest mistakes I have made in my life was never showing my grandfather how I truly felt about him. I love my grandfather deeply but I had faced a lot of troubles evoking that emotion to him. My grandfather always greeted me with open arms every Friday, but I constantly declined his hugs and ignored his representation of affection. In my opinion, I believe that I was his favorite grand child because he would always “go out of his way” to get me anything I wanted. It was sake of my grandfather, that I received new toys and money. Every time he gave me a toy or some money, he would always say this phrase before he handed me my gift, “When ever mom says no, grand father always says yes”. My grandfather always wanted a hug after he gave me gifts, but I gave him a quick smile instead. I do not understand the reason why, but I have a hard time showing people how I truly feel about them.
ReplyDeleteWhen I was younger, I always preferred my grandfather over my mom and dad. He understood the point of view of children and was more understand than my parents. When I was at my grandfather’s house, I rarely got in trouble because of my grandfather’s understanding ways. He also told me stories about his younger days in Belize and attempted teach me Spanish. While with my grandfather I always pretended to be uninterested and bored but I was very amazed.
My grandfather’s time on this earth was limited so he died in his sleep at the hospital. When my mother presented me with this news I was in disbelief. I never cried after hearing the news although the rest of my family was. I did not believe the news because I thought my family was pulling a cruel trick on me. A few days later, I attended my grandfather’s funeral waiting for a surprise to happen. I was ahead of my family and rushed toward the middle aisle of the funeral home to see if the surprise waited at the front. I saw a big case on top of a table. I looked in to see what was inside.
Inside laid a man I took for granted. It laid a man that was being taken advantage of. It laid a man who always went out of his way for his grand daughter. It laid a grandfather who loved his grand daughter to death.
I lost feeling in my legs and cried all through out the funeral. Almost everyday for about a month I cried until my eyes swelled and I had trouble seeing. I missed the chance to have warm hugs with my grandfather and enjoy listening about his younger days. I missed out on the opportunity to learn Spanish as well. My grandfather died and I did not have the chance to sincerely tell him I loved him. He attempted to buy my love and I used him. My biggest regret was being foolish by not telling the one I love deeply that I truly loved them.
To start off, i would just like to say that i live with no regrets. I feel that everything happens for a reason and i tend to learn from my mistakes. One of the mistakes i have made in my life would be when i talked about one of my friends behind their back. I don't normally do that but one day i did and the person i told, had told my friend what i had said about her. Even though we aren't friends we aren't friends now i still feel bad about it. I sort of trusted the person i had told expecting her to keep it between us but she didn't. That day one girl lost my trust and i lost a somewhat friend. I didn't really like the girl i spoke about thats why i donn't feel bad that we aren't friends till this day. I wouldn't count this as a regret because i don't wish this inncident didn't happen. I'm glad it took place and it taught me to keep my feelings about others to myself. Which has helped me through life so far and kept me out of things like drama. From this i have also learned not the saying "trust noone" because i already have been following that saying since i was was younger. But, now the saying in my head that i follow goes more like "trust no one, not even your friends".
ReplyDeletei have had many regrets in my life but there are those few that i regret more than most. I remember there was a time when i was constantley bullied for my height and would alway be called a boy and other horrific names. So when i hit puberty i was hoping that everything would subside and i would just be one of the girls. Well, i was wrong because after that all the girls started to hate me and no longer talked me other than my best friend.So i was always striving to fit in with everyone else by doing alot of sports so the boys would think i'm cool and getting really into to skirts and dresses although i didn't really like girly things i still wanted to be accepted by everyone.
ReplyDeletei remember this day when all the girl were ganging up on me about some boy that a girl like and they wanted me to get him for her. So i tried to and it work but it turned out the girl were lying and i nearly got raped by a group of boys and i got introuble for hurting them even though i was the real victim. so to get back at the main girl who thought of all this. i had gotten into a really big fight with and got her hospitalized but in my temporary rage some had told me that i nearly killed my best friend while she was trying to stop me. I told myself i would never fight again because of it, well unless it was protect the people i care about the most. I wasn't allowed to see my best friend for 1 year because she transferred out. I didn't see her until she came back for 7th grade then now we are the same as we were before but i will never forget the day i did such a horrific thing.
The affect it had on me was brutal, not only did i lose any chance of having friends but even my teachers looked down and me and no longer payed me any attention. It felt like everyone wanted to get rid of me and never see me again. The main thing that really got to me was how my family took it. The ones that were around for the ties i was getting teased completely undrestood but that other side of the family that we don't really see much was disappointed in me very much. So it didn't only affect me but everyone around me was affected by it as well. My last year of middle school was when i start to be accepted from everyone even people i didn't really to much. the only thing i have to say is never tease someone about their size or the way they look because u don't understand the hardship that person went through before they met you.
To begin with, I always used to live a life full of regrets but now i hardly live with any. I feel that things happen for a reason and there are reasons why things happen. You do things because you want to and you should not regret why you did what you did. I feel this way now but before, it was a totally different story. Every bad thing I did or anything I wasn't suppose to do, i had always regret it after. I hated that feeling because when you start to regret something, you want to take back what you did. It would bother me all day and all night. One mistake in my life that i regret was a night when i was suppose to go home a certain time but i let a certain group of friends convince me to stay out. The bad part was that i didn't really want to stay with them but i did. I didn't know what i was thinking. After that, i knew i was going to get in trouble. I regret this the most because it made me look like a follower and i dislike to be known as that. I'm not a follower and that was how i felt. I understand if i wanted to stay but i didn't want to and i did anyway. I was being a follower by staying out because my friends wanted to. Now i regret none because I'm a leader and not a follower. That regret affected me a lot and I'm glad that now i do not live my life with regrets. Whatever i do happens for a reason and i will never regret to take anything back.
ReplyDeleteTo tell the truth, I have little regrets. I accept what happens so I will not be miserable. Though I still wish I could redo my first relationship. It was my first relationship and the only example I had of one were in movies, but those were not real relationships. I knew he was my boyfriend but I treated him as if he was a key chain, he was only there to make me look good. I used excuses for why I was not able to show affection toward him. “I have to watch my nephew” or “It is family movie night.” However the actual reason for my lack of affection was my insecurities. I did not want to get to close to him only for rejection. I did not want him to deny my flaws, and judge me. He catered to me even though he saw my flaws, but I was not able to accept that someone could love me if I was not perfect. Even though I knew he would not I expected him to treat me like garbage when he found out who I really was, so before he had the chance I pushed him away and treated him horribly, which he did not deserve. I regret having insecurities that made me treat someone I did like awfully. After we broke up I felt like I deserved every horrible attitude, because I was the worst girlfriend a boy could ever have. I wanted to change but I knew it was not going to be easy. One summer vacation I needed to cry and exhaust my insecurities, and accept and love myself so I would not treat my next boyfriend the same. I regret not talking to him again so I could apologize and explain but I know he is happier without me in his life so I leave him be. I cherish the few adoring moments we had but I will not dwell on the past, I will just keep moving forward. I am confident, my self-esteem is high and I am exceptional, I will not let concern turn me into a monster.
ReplyDeleteRegrets are negative emotional reactions usually stressed through sadness, depression, embarrassment, or shame and can either served as a burden that interfere with your present happiness and restrict your future, or as a motivation to move forward. Mistakes and regrets plays a major part in my life but distinguished themselves because some affects me more than others. While some cause me constant pain and stress, others provide a sense of humor and a valuable wisdom to learn from. One of my greatest and most memorable regret that changed my entire life was not listening to the words of my parents and ignoring them by any means I had. This all happened when I was about eleven years old, when this crazy thought of not needing my parents swirled through my head. I possessed this obsession of doing things my own way without the concern of a father, mother or anyone for that matter of fact. Even if I did inform them, and their answer would be no, I would still conduct my actions, despite knowing what the consequences were going to do. Such behavioral patterns include going outside when my parents warned me not to, watching the television when I am suppose to be sleeping, and eating food that my mother advised me not to eat. I just felt that I had to have my own way.
ReplyDeleteVery soon my awful behavior began to impact my life. I realized that my parents were becoming more angry at me and that they no longer see me as the loving and generous boy they once raised. Also my other relatives and friends began keeping their distance and viewed me with distrust and suspicion whenever am in their present. To resolve my dreadful behavior, I first began asking for forgiveness and make amends. I apologized to my family and friends I once hurt, forgive myself, and asked god for forgiveness. I accept the circumstances and avoid blaming others but rather take responsibility for my own actions. And finally I learned a beneficial lesson that I will journey with throughout the rest of my life. Listen to your parents because they knows what’s best for you.
Ive made a lot of mistakes as a teenager. Some that I am not so proud of. Some that other people not be so proud of. But one of my mistakes was lying to my mom. She was so upset at me for lying and not telling the truth. My mom hates liars so I thought she hated me. But that wasn’t the case. My mother was so upset up to the point that she didn’t speak to me nor look at me. She was so upset.
ReplyDeleteOf course I did what I did because I didn’t want to tell my mom the truth that was all she wanted but I didn’t want to tell her. But lying was the wrong thing to do, it really was. She was so upset. Keeping the truth from her was the wrong thing to do but I just didn’t want to get in trouble. Because the truth of the matter is I was always in trouble and I was always getting in trouble for anything. That upset me so I thought maybe if I can lie this one time, I can get away with it. But it didn’t work out that way because my mother knew me and she knew when I was lying. And that upset me a lot because I thought to myself “how will I ever get away with anything?”. I honestly thought I was going to get away with this. I thought that lying for the first time I might be able to get away with it because I never lied before. But my mother knew. And that was the worse mistake I could ever make.
It affected me because I love my mother a lot. And I cant stand the fact that she didn’t want to look at me nor look at me. It hurts a lot. I mean who in the world wants their mother to be upset at them and not talking to them? Who ever that person may be is crazy. So I learned a lot from that. And I wont lie to my mother away :) .
Marvin Clarke
ReplyDeleteI have some regrets about my choice of word because I made a comment about a scence I saw in a movie and I had said something that I made a mistake and said. I chose bad words in my comment beacuse I was not thinking about how that was going to flow out of my mouth and how people would feel after I said what I said. I felt bad about that
situation because someone was mad after I
picked the wrong choice of words and I wanted
to apologize for what was said at the time but I did not know how the person was feeling at the
time and I knew the situation was going to
calm down and nothing was going to happen. I did what I did beacuse I was not thinking my
words through and I just said the first thing that
I was in my head and I should of never do that
I would not know how someone would feel
after I say it.I should be careful about what
comes out of my mouth beacuse people can
feel away about the situation. I'm glad the situation did calm down but I did not know if
someone else who was in the converstion and
start up what I said and make a big deal.If I
had the chance to fix my mistake I would
choice a better way to say my comment and
check to see how someone would feel if I say
my comment. I say this situation was bigger then all the others beacuse I had someone feel a way beacuse of my choice of word and I have some regrets about It and at that time I wished I had fixed it and make sure I check what I say or do.
to apologize to the person who got offended
by what was said. I was thinking to myself if
that boy was going to tell his parents what I
said and I was going to get in trouble but the situation calmed down and nothing really happen...Next time I make a statment or comment about something I should think of
what I'm going to say before I say it and check
to see if some one is going to feel offended by
the statment or comment.When people do certain thing they should just get it off there shoulders because you could have guilty feeling about what ever you did
and that what I had when I made that wrong comment and also you should
think about what you say or do that you can also regrets about. Most of the time
I just say things with out thinking it through and my words or action could lead
me in trouble or almost lead me in trouble and I don't want that because if I let
any situation going on I would not be able to find a way to fix what
I have caused and the situation would get worse then it is.Sometime you think you have regrets about a situation but it's nothing because the situation might calm down and you was worry for no reason,that happens to me too.This sitution was bigger than the rest of problems because one mistake could cause a huge conflict that could not be resolve without fighting and I might feel a certain way about what ever I did,I don't think about why I did it I just do it and I should not and
Regrets are natural for everyone at some point in life. I, myself have a normal amount of regrets, but so does everyone. I don’t have a heartbreaking, unbelievably outrageous regret that comes with a story about how sorry I am, but I do have things that I wish I’d never done, and decisions I’d never made. Although my mistakes and the regrets that come with them don’t affect me as much as other people’s mistakes and regrets do, I do regret my mistakes nonetheless. Regret is a feeling that we could all live without; there is nothing worse than feeling like you made a horrible decision of some sort. But like most emotions, regrets are something we have to cope with, even if they affect us to the point of permanent grief or sorrow.
ReplyDeleteDespite the fact that I have never made a mistake that is regrettable enough to change my life, I do often wonder what life would be like for me had I not made those regrettable mistakes. But over time I have learned from my mistakes, so I am at ease as I realize that my mistakes are natural. For me, regretting my mistakes, as well as feeling guilty later on, means that I am taking my own responsibility for those mistakes and I have accepted the consequences that come with them.
Regret is not an emotion I like feeling, so I make strives to make fewer mistakes, and have few regrets. But nonetheless, I make mistakes, and regrets come. I have never lacked regret for something that wasn’t supposed happen, but I almost always accept whatever comes with the mistake I made. It is when I do not take responsibility for my actions, that I regret the actions the most. When I have accepted the consequences of my mistake, my regret dissolves slowly knowing that in the end, taking responsibility was the right ting to do.
Because I am who I am, when I regret a decision I've made, I don’t pretend like I never made the mistake in the first place. I always accept what happens after the mistake.
The biggest regret I have in my life is holding a silly grudge against one of my best friends and only saying two words to him before he died. I regret this so much because I was mad because of something so silly, one day he would not stop playing with me when I was upset. After this day he went away and I never really talked to him again even after he came back. On Labor Day of this year he was at my house and we had the shortest conversation ever and by next week he was dead. Before this incident we were the best of friends and I let one day change everything and I never got a chance to make our relationship better. I never thought he would be gone so fast so I did not care to mend our friendship but after he was gone I realized I was 100% wrong for my actions. The worst feeling is knowing that you can never apologize to someone for your mistakes because they are gone and you have to accept and live with it. I allowed our whole friendship to go to waste because I was being stubborn and over dramatic over such a small thing. I should have realized I was wrong before and broke our silence but I allowed it to continue until it was too late. If we were friends again before his death I would have felt so much better knowing our friendship was healed but since we were slowly drifting apart and we weren’t talking like we use to I didn’t care to befriend him again. In the summer of 2009 we spent most days together but from the time school resumed we started talking less and we weren’t as close to each other as we once were. His death was so unexpected and I never saw it coming so it made me contemplate never speaking to him for a few days. When he died I was more distressed because I treated him so bad and he did not deserve it. Up to this day I still think about the whole situation and get deeply saddened.
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